The true point of living by a budget

In a recent post, Matt at the blog One Million and Beyond describes the fluid budget. I was glad to see it because the "fluid budget" sounds a bit like the one my wife M and I are on.

We've gotten to the cash register at the grocery store and had to take things off the conveyor belt because we exceeded our spending limit for that trip. But at times we've also shifted money from one category because we suddenly decided to spend more in another category. As Matt points out, a "fluid" budget that has some give can work.

Most people think of a budget like a pair of financial handcuffs, very tight and uncomfortable. But the point of a budget is not to determine ahead of time exactly what you are going to spend in every category of your life and then rigidly spend only that amount. A budget is just a tool to help you control your spending so that you are living within--or even better, below--your means.

When your budget is working, it feels good. You know how much you have to spend, you're making conscious decisions about what dollars go where, and most importantly, you're not piling up debt.

Accomplish those things--whether using a rigid or fluid budget--and you'll take a big step toward reaching your financial goals.

More fun at the Carnival of Personal Finance

I saw Matt's post at this week's Carnival, hosted by Christian Personal Finance. Here are couple more of my (and the editor's) picks from the week's selection:

The whole armor of personal finance. At Debt Free Adventure, Matt draws an analogy between the armor of God described in Ephesians 6:10 and the "armor of personal finance." It's a cool and very appropriate parallel (though I prefer the more plain-English version of the verse, instead of ye olde King James version). After all, every financial decision is a spiritual decision.

Buy on the rumor, sell on the news. Dorian from The Personal Financier gives his take on the link between investing and psychology, my favorite aspect of money. One interesting thing he discusses here: How the expectation of getting money, in our own minds, is actually more satisfying than actually getting it. Go figure!

Physical and fiscal fitness: More alike than you think

I don’t like exercise. Many people get a lot of satisfaction from jogging or lifting weights. I'm not one of them. In fact, I hate exercising just to exercise. It’s boring.

I understand the importance of exercise, especially the long-term benefits. But that doesn’t motivate me much to hit the gym or the track.

You may face the same issue managing your money. You dislike budgeting. You think investing is boring. You even understand their importance and long-term benefits. Still, you haven’t been able to build your savings, reduce debt, or make much progress on your financial goals.

Habits and goals go hand-in-hand
Being physically or fiscally fit is about developing good habits that last. That’s most likely to happen if you tie those habits to a specific goal or purpose.

A couple years ago, I set my sights on summiting 14,410-foot Mt. Rainier. For six months prior to my climb, I strength-trained in the gym three times a week. I hated just about every minute of it, but I rarely missed a workout. Every leg press and stomach crunch gave me a better chance of checking Rainier off my “bucket list.”

I’ve noticed the same thing when it comes to our household budget. M and I are aggressively saving to build up a large down payment so we can move up from our townhouse to a single-family home. We’ve cut our discretionary expenses by about a third, and things feel pretty tight. But we’ve stuck to our plan—as painful as it has been. We know that every extra dollar we spend takes away from our larger goal.

“Good for you” isn’t good enough
If good money habits haven’t stuck for you, get specific. Instead of “paying off the credit cards,” for example, identify a direct, tangible benefit of reducing your debt. Maybe it will give you the cash to go on that trip to Italy you’ve always talked about. Or to get the mountain bike you’ve been eyeing. Or help get you and your spouse out of marital counseling.

Whatever the benefit, go beyond just dollars-and-cents logic. The more personal, the better. Good exercise and financial habits are tough beasts to master and maintain, even for those who do them well. If you struggle, find an emotional connection. That will turn your initial steps into ongoing habits that you’ll stick with when the going gets tough.

The truth about budgeting

Research has shown that about 40% of all households maintain a monthly spending plan, or budget. While they make up less than half of us, do budget-users know something non-budgeters don’t? Have they discovered a secret to make budgeting less of a chore?

Unfortunately, no. Here are three truths that I've learned about using a spending plan, and that other users would likely agree with:

Planning ahead is hard. Unexpected expenses come up every month and prices on most things (not just gas) continue to rise. Sometimes spending predictions are off—even way off.

Tracking spending is a pain. A purse or wallet stuffed with receipts is annoying. And even with budgeting software, logging all the information can be time-consuming.

Budgets are "restrictive." Yes, a budget will restrict you from buying what you want--especially if you can’t afford it.

So now you know: Budgeting isn’t fun. But that's true about many things in life that are good for us. Watching what we eat and sweating it out at the gym aren’t easy, for example. But the satisfaction you can get from a trim, healthy body makes the effort worthwhile.

Financial talk-show host Dave Ramsey likes to say that folks who get on a monthly budget often feel like they’ve gotten a raise. Such can be the power of planning and knowing where your dollars are going each month. And that can lead to some fun--that you really can afford--in the long run.

The path to wealth is usually a slow one

There are no shortcuts to financial success, but you wouldn’t know it by the Internet. Just Google the phrase “get rich quick” and you get advertisements like these:

“Bring in $100,000 a month: I can teach you how!”

“Turn $600 into $39,000 with the Forgotten Commodity!”

“Earn money fast and LEGALLY!”

Seeking quick riches can spell trouble
The absurdity of the ads’ claims is worth a chuckle. And maybe you've never felt tempted to click one just to “see what it’s all about.” But someone is clicking, and buying into the ads’ promises—otherwise they wouldn’t exist.

“Quick and easy” is a good description for making a box of Mac n' Cheese, not building wealth. After all, “The trustworthy person will get a rich reward, but a person who wants quick riches will get into trouble.” (Psalms 28:20)

Overnight wealth, or lasting peace?
In their research for the bestselling book, The Millionaire Next Door, Drs. Thomas Stanley and William Danko found that “building wealth takes sacrifice, discipline, and hard work”—hardly the stuff offered by the Internet ads above. But chances are most folks wouldn’t click on ads like these:

“Learn the secret to financial success: Spend less, save more!”

“Retire a multimillionaire—in just 30 years!”

“Be content with what you have. Find out how!”

Living below your means, using a monthly spending plan (budget), setting aside money for the future, and avoiding debt won’t you get rich overnight. But they can vastly improve your chances of accumulating wealth in the long run. More importantly, they offer the promise of something much better: lasting peace and contentment.

Want that bank fee waived? Then ask

The ATM receipt I held gave me a sickening feeling. A negative sign showed next to the balance amount.

M’s and my checking account was overdrawn, and I knew exactly why. I’d forgotten to deposit a check I had put in my wallet earlier in the week, which was why I had gone to the ATM in the first place.

The good news is that I didn’t have to pay an overdraft fee, and not because Commerce Bank didn’t charge one (a nice, hefty $35). In fact, it was because I asked them not to.

A benefit of competition
You might be surprised to know that fees at banks, credit card companies, and other financial institutions are often negotiable. Many times—but not every time—you can avoid paying a charge that’s been levied on you for whatever reason simply by contacting the company and asking them to waive it.

Over the years I’ve saved by having the annual fee on my credit card waived, as well as charges for making a payment by phone (when I’ve been a little late mailing the check). Buying my first house, my father encouraged me to push the mortgage companies competing for my business to remove the many extraneous charges ($35 for courier services, $25 for faxing paperwork, etc.) that they like to tack on to provide the loan. Not every company waived every fee, but some did.

The reason financial companies are willing to let you keep your money? Competition. Losing your business to another bank or credit card company costs them much more than losing the revenue from a one-time $20 or $30 fee. Besides, for every person who asks to have a charge removed, there are many more who simply pay it, no questions asked.

Good financial habits help
That said, financial companies are only willing to go so far. If you make a habit of bouncing checks or paying your credit card late, you have little chance of avoiding the resulting penalty charges, no matter how nicely you ask.

In the years M and I have been customers at Commerce, I can’t recall being overdrawn any other time. We also were never late with a payment on M’s car loan, which they financed, and paid it off several months in advance. So the tedious chores associated with being a good financial steward—balancing the checking account, tracking where our money goes—do have their rewards.

Still, being temporarily overdrawn has shown me that I keep the cash level of our checking account lower than I should. I don’t like the idea of keeping a hundred or so “extra” dollars in the account—money that isn’t accounted for in M’s and my monthly spending plan—where it can be easily tapped. But it’s probably better than relying on my memory to make sure I always make our deposits on time.

Charged up about the cost of a cell phone battery

I've been debating getting rid of M and my cell phones. Buying a cell phone battery has pushed me a little closer to hitting "End Call" permanently.

I've had my LG VX3300 cell phone for about 15 months--not that long, in my estimation. I use it only moderately; I rarely go over the minutes in my service plan and I turn it off when I'm at work. So the fact that the factory model battery recently stopped holding its charge for any length of time was annoying enough.

Then I went to my friendly local Verizon accessory dealer for a replacement. The pricetag: an appalling $49. More than twice as much as I expected. As M pointed out after I got back, "For that, you could have gotten a whole new phone."

I want what I want
Yes, I could have. But I didn't want a new phone. My phone serves my purposes well enough. I don't need a cameraphone, a webphone, or a phone with the ability to answer e-mail.

And I definitely don't want a new cell phone plan, which cheap new phones often come with. I can't wait for our current two-year contract to run out so we can unload it from our monthly budget. I'd rather put $82 toward CJ Jr's college fund--which we've temporarily stopped contributing to, since we went to one income--than give it to Verizon.

I've considered paying the cancellation fee. Dishing out the $150 for each of our two phones is less than half than amount we'll pay ($738) for the next nine months to finish out the contract. But I just can't stomach putting out that kind of money for absolutely nothing.

Two big errors
I do shoulder some of the blame for my battery "overcharge." I didn't shop around beforehand, as I normally do. Afterwards I found one online for half the price.

I also took CJ Jr. with me on my little errand. I may have been more inclined to go to a couple different places, or even ask the Verizon guy about other options, if I had been able to keep both eyes on the cash register instead of one eye on CJ.

Now M and I have to revisit our January spending plan and figure out where that extra $30 or so will come from. That may not sound like much, but it eats up a little chunk of our expected household expenses for the month, which we try to keep as fixed as possible.

Besides, I just wanted a battery, at a reasonable price. Is that too much to ask?

Good personal finance advice for your ears

I love my iPod. Listening to podcasts of radio shows from Dave Ramsey, Crown Financial Ministries, and Charles Stanley make my hour-long commute to and from work an education rather than just a grind. (In fact, I rarely listen to music.)

I'm going to add another show to my podcast favorites: "The Color of Money" from National Public Radio (NPR). It airs every week on NPR's "Day to Day" show. Michelle Singletary, the personal finance columnist for the Washington Post, is the primary contributor. The segment covers the usual range of topics, from saving for retirement, college, etc. to tips on starting a business.

Maybe the best part about it: It's informative and short, about four minutes long. Plus, with the podcast, no endless NPR fundraising segments to sit through in the fall and spring.

A Penny Saved hosts Carnival
The list of submissions to the weekly Carnival of Personal Finance seems to get longer and longer. This week's carnival is at A Penny Saved, and since there are so many choices, here are a few from the bottom of the list you otherwise may not have seen:

• The pursuit of the perfect savings rate at "My financial journey."
• 13 ways to save on gasoline, at "How to save money" (though you need to live near an Indian reservation for one tip).
• How persistence will make you rich someday, on "Money Smart Life."

Calculator gives you the basics for creating a budget

The thought of creating a family budget stops many people dead in their tracks. They look at the stack of bills and receipts on their desk, and suddenly cleaning out the garage is more appealing.

Often the reason is because folks don't know where or how to begin. But when it comes to setting up a budget, you don't have to recreate the wheel--there are any number of tools out there to get you started.

Take the "Ideal Budget" calculator on CNNMoney.com, part of its Money 101 series on the basics of personal finances. The "Ideal Budget" doesn't quite live up to its name in my book, but it's a quick and easy way to give you the basic framework for your own budget.

A broad financial picture
With the Ideal Budget calculator, you first input the amount of your income. Then you enter your expenses, in five broad categories: Housing & Debt, Taxes, Insurance, Savings and Investment, and Living Expenses. The calculator shows the percentage of your income going to each specific category, and provides an "ideal" budget allocation to see if you're spending too much or too little in one area.

It took me all of about 10 minutes to enter my family's information, though admittedly I have most of that information available at my fingertips. If you don't keep track of your expenses regularly or can't remember what you did with your last paystub, it will take you a bit longer.

I liked the fact that the budget was organized into just five expense categories. If you're just starting out making your first budget, simplicity is key. You need to have enough categories to make the personal financial "data" you're gathering and tracking helpful, but not so many that it's an administrative headache.

Not perfect categories
But I question a couple of the specific categories the Ideal Budget uses. For instance, I don't see a whole lot of value in budgeting your taxes. True, taxes are a big expense, but they are what they are. Most people with a steady paycheck or mortgage payment pay the same amount each month. If you're overspending in one category, you wouldn't be reducing your taxes to make up the difference. M and I base our monthly spending plan on after-tax income, which is truer to the actual income we have to spend.

I also don't like grouping Housing & Debt together. Yes, your home mortgage (if you have one) is debt, but it's also an investment--much different than the credit card balance you have for that plasma screen TV, or your new car loan. It's much more revealing to give your consumer (i.e., non-mortgage) debt its own place in your budget, and see just how much of your monthly income it's consuming.

Percentages can be questionable, too
The "Ideal budget allocation" percentages provided with the calculator are helpful. Some of the most common questions folks have about their finances are, "How much should I be spending per month on my house? On groceries? On entertainment? etc.," and the calculator gives a basic idea.

But like the categories themselves, the percentages come with some caveats. The calculator lists 25% as the ideal amount that should go for taxes, an amount which realistically could vary by the individual. It lists just 26% of income going for living expenses, but includes everything from food and clothing to gasoline and utilities. I don't know where the folks from CNNMoney live, but in New Jersey, the cost of living is probably higher than 26 cents of every dollar.

One "Ideal budget allocation" I agree with: 15% for Savings and Investment. That's truly an ideal figure, based on the fact that the U.S. savings rate has been negative for the past year, but one well worth striving for.

A first step worth taking
Judging by the "Ideal Budget," my family's in pretty good shape. We have little debt, so we're well below the 30% ideal allocation in that category. Our living expenses are running about more than a third of our income, which makes me question the cost of my 105-mile roundtrip daily commute--but since I love where I work and where I live, that's probably not changing.

If you've never created a budget before, the Ideal Budget calculator is worth a try. At least you'll get to say, "So that's what a budget looks like...!" But keep its limitations in perspective and think about how you could tailor it to your own needs. Hopefully, it will encourage you to put off cleaning the garage for another week.

High taxes may be the least of your problems

The politicians here in New Jersey are at it again--trying to figure out a way to lower the highest state taxes in the country. Few Jersey residents believe they'll make much headway, as this Philadelphia Inquirer article points out, and I, too, will believe it when I see it.

But if you think that lower taxes will make a big difference in your personal finances, think again. If you're complaining that taxes are too high and are a big reason you don't have enough money to live, you just might be looking at the wrong side of the equation.

It's not the taxes that are killing you

I was struck by this quote at the end of the Inquirer article linked to above:

"I just spent $200 on beauty products and makeup and had to pay $14 in sales tax," said Elisa, a woman shopping in Atlantic County. "I think that's ridiculous. They better start giving us something back or people are going to start moving to states where they have to pay out less money in taxes."

Now I'm trying hard not to rush to judgment. I've been with my wife M when she's bought makeup and I know it can cost a pretty penny (even at our local drugstore). Plus, I know that M wears makeup to look nice, mostly for me, and so I can be held responsible for the lipsticks and eyeliners in her purse. Guilty as charged. (Though she looks beautiful naturally, too--seriously.)

But $200? For makeup? And then complaining about $14 from a 7% state sales tax?

I can't make that kind of logic add up.

Taxes are a good, not great, deal
No one likes a big tax bill. And I've done my share of griping about the big chunk of our family income that goes to our federal and state governments.

But taxes are a fact of life. They pay for things our country and states couldn't do without, like roads, schools, and the protection of our homes and families. In the big scheme of things they might not be a bargain, but they could be considered a pretty good deal.

Being money-wise is less taxing
I don't know if Elisa is rich or poor. I don't know if that $200 in makeup will last her a year or a month. I don't know if she carefully included the expense in her monthly spending plan.

But if she's in a financial mess, I know one thing: Paying $14 less in taxes--or moving to another state with no sales or income tax--isn't going to get her out. Her best chance at financial redemption is to change how she thinks about her money, and how she behaves in regards to it. Save more, spend less, know where every dollar goes. That's taking a wise approach to managing your money.

It's good advice for every person to follow. And come to think of it, for every legislator too.